A typical assault on a Friday night
Dancing in the Heart on a Friday night. Guy follows our group from the door to the bar to the dance floor. He grabbed my friend and twisted her wrist until she screamed. Then he let go.
She went over to security and they laughed at her. She got a male friend to go to security and he managed to get three guards to check out the perp but when they saw my friend there with tears in her eyes, they laughed and walked away, presumably because (a) it's funny when girls cry in pain and (b) the perp was probably a VIP and they cannot be expected to keep their hands off a pretty girl.
Nobody in officialdom cared and not even the guy who got security cared very much. All he said was "it's their culture. You have to respect it. It they hurt you, you must smile." In other words, violence against women is of no consequences, and quit complaining. Your wrist will be fine tomorrow. You can pay for a doctor.
Assault of a friend. No legal recourse. No rights. Sit down. Shut up.
What can one do? Nothing. Nothing legal anyway. No body cares about violence against women. People laugh at a woman in pain.
"It's their culture". I abhor the argument that violence in this context is cultural. Or that violence in any context should be preserved as part of a culture. It is the antithesis of human rights and the treaties signed by all nations. Additionally it is not part of Cambodian culture. The courts are doing slightly better with prosecuting the perpetrators of violence against women. What is part of the culture is silence when the perpetrator is an important person.
She went over to security and they laughed at her. She got a male friend to go to security and he managed to get three guards to check out the perp but when they saw my friend there with tears in her eyes, they laughed and walked away, presumably because (a) it's funny when girls cry in pain and (b) the perp was probably a VIP and they cannot be expected to keep their hands off a pretty girl.
Nobody in officialdom cared and not even the guy who got security cared very much. All he said was "it's their culture. You have to respect it. It they hurt you, you must smile." In other words, violence against women is of no consequences, and quit complaining. Your wrist will be fine tomorrow. You can pay for a doctor.
Assault of a friend. No legal recourse. No rights. Sit down. Shut up.
What can one do? Nothing. Nothing legal anyway. No body cares about violence against women. People laugh at a woman in pain.
"It's their culture". I abhor the argument that violence in this context is cultural. Or that violence in any context should be preserved as part of a culture. It is the antithesis of human rights and the treaties signed by all nations. Additionally it is not part of Cambodian culture. The courts are doing slightly better with prosecuting the perpetrators of violence against women. What is part of the culture is silence when the perpetrator is an important person.
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6 comments:
Stop your whinging woman,you won't change anything.
Just be thankful that the assault was minor.the heart is a good place to steer clear of.
We rescued two japanese women there a year or so,if not for me and my mate anything could have happened to them.
Many people go to the heart because it is edgy.Stick to elsewhere and talking to a stranger where you are amongst your own.
So Mr I'm-too-cowardly-to-post-under-a-name you think I'm being whiny. Boo fucking hoo. Feel free to PFO then rather than listening to me whine.
- You think I should be thankful that my friend was assaulted? That's seriously messed up. I think it is reasonable expect NOT to be assaulted. That is the normal order of things.
- How typical to blame the woman, instead of the perpetrator. Do you ever get tired of that? Do you tell your sister/ mother/ female friends, "it's your own fault, you were there" or do you blame the criminal for committing the crime?
- You think women should be restricted to certain places to prevent assault? Have you heard of gender equality? I will go where I damn well please. My friends will go where they damn well please. And we go where we please and we do not expect to get assaulted. It is a criminal offence and merits jail time.
And no one needs policing by an obnoxious semi-concern troll - buh bye
The heart is not remotely edgy dude. It's a basic crappy club and is not ever dangerous anymore
Violence should not be condoned!!!!
Keep talking about it.
It's not just at clubs but more distressing it occurs in homes.
Are males so violent because of violence of last 3 decades?
That's no excuse.
Rather what can be done about it?
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Yeah M violence should not be condoned and the vast majority of gender based violence happens at home.
We must speak out more and object to rape jokes, sexist advertising and provide gender sensitive education in my opinion.
Great comment Nat. Thanks!
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